1.) Don’t fight nature.
You can try to get creative with interesting photo choices and hilarious quotes, but in the end, nature rules.
“Biology trumps psychology,” said Walsh, referring to Dr. David Buss’ large-scale cross-cultural mating strategies study conducted at the University of Texas.
Walsh said that men focus on, in order of importance, beauty, loyalty, and kindness. Tinder’s platform, which is led by photos and only a short blurb, works in favor of men, as it’s based on male mating strategies, Walsh said.
Women, on the other hand, look for resources, intelligence, and then kindness, which can be harder to convey on Tinder.
“Back in our anthropological past, we needed a guy to bring back the wooly mammoth,” she said. “We needed him to be a smart guy, if there was a harsh winter and two hungry babies, to figure out a new way to get food.”
So, if you want to attract a woman, Walsh said to focus on your photo’s background as much as yourself, because it also conveys a lot about you.
“Women are looking for status indicators,” Walsh said. “They don’t care about your abs, unless they only want a hookup. They are looking to see if that lamp behind you is from Restoration Hardware.”
Anna Martin, 38, who has been using Tinder for the last few months after her engagement ended, confirms this.
“I hate dudes who take pics of themself at the gym,” Martin said. “I also prefer men to leave their clothes on.”
To show a woman you’re intelligent, Walsh said to start with being grammatically correct.
“Say something smart or witty,” Walsh said. “Don’t just say you’re smart or that you like smart women; say something smart.”