Chris Pezza, 31, who has used Tinder since it’s introduction in 2012, said he has had success striking a balance between silly and confident in his opening line.
“For awhile, mine was, ‘So does this mean we’re dating…?’” said Pezza, who added that it was met with warm reception.
Lastly, find a way to showcase that you are kind.
To attract a mate, use some great photos, then finds ways to convey your loyalty and kindness.
Just knowing these scientific truths can make for an easier time, allowing you to just relax and let nature take its course.
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2.) Limit your swipes.
This might seem counterintuitive, especially for men who swipe right 80 to 90 percent of the time, but in the end you’re making more work for yourself, Walsh said.
“If you have three or four matches in your inbox, stop and access them,” Walsh said. ”Don’t wait until you have 20 matches in your inbox; that’s just silly.”
Walsh has firsthand experience with this strategy’s success. She recently coached a client on Tinder, helping her select two matches to focus on getting to know. The client is now getting married to one of these two men.
Tinder itself has tried to remedy the swiping-everyone situation by limiting the number of right swipes in a 12-hour period in its free app. But the problem of authenticity remains, leading to hurt feelings or confusion for some users.
“If we match, and I initiate a conversation, why do so many women respond so coldly?” said Matt Miller, 30, of Chicago. “Some of the responses are similar to what you would get after interrupting their conversation at a bar.”
Another Tinder user, who asked to remain anonymous, also said she has had problems with matches who never materialize or communicate.
“You really just learn to shrug it off and move on,” she said.