There are a variety of reasons men over the age of 50 find themselves in the dating pool. But one thing is certain: it can be overwhelming and competitive.
Writer and recent widower, Wes Gibson (Surviving Widowhood), came up with five ways that men 50+ can be more interesting to women and be part of the upper 10% of available men that women seek in a relationship. Here’s what he says:
- TAKE UP A FEW HOBBIES THAT A WOMAN WOULD ENJOY PARTICIPATING IN.
Pick two or three hobbies that you would enjoy, but make sure that a woman would find them interesting as well. Kayaking, paddle boarding, and antiquing are three out of thousands of possibilities. Any kind of dancing would be a good choice. Once you’ve decided on a few, then sign up for a course and start participating. You don’t have to be an expert. You just need to know the basics and enjoy the hobby.
- HIT THE GYM AND EAT BETTER.
I’m not suggesting that you need to get ripped or be able to run a marathon. Just get active and improve your diet. Most men over 50 could stand to lose a few pounds and build a little muscle tone. So, get busy already. As far as your diet, cut back on the processed foods. Stick with lots of fresh vegetables and some lean proteins. Cooking these is super simple. I prepare most meals in 15 to 30 minutes.
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- LEARN TO DRESS BETTER.
Most men don’t know anything about fashion, nor do they care. Unfortunately, we are judged by our appearances. Make a little effort and learn how to dress better. You don’t have to wear Armani suits every day, but you need to ditch the food-stained t-shirt and baggy blue jeans. I was in the military for 20 years and was always told what to where. After retiring, I had no clue how to dress myself. I found an excellent website called Real Men Real Style that has helped me.
- READ MORE.
Always have a book to read and consider yourself a life-long learner. Just reading a minimum of 20 minutes a day will broaden your mind, make you more interesting, and improve your communication skills. Pick the right books. Something motivational, anything on self-improvement, a biography, or a popular best-seller would be good choices.
- BE CONFIDENT AND HAVE SOME DIRECTION IN YOUR LIFE.
Women are attracted to confident men. Have a direction in your life. Set some goals. Be confident of who you are, where you’ve been, and where you are heading in life. At the same time, you want to mix in a little humility and vulnerability. Just a little..too much and you come off as being weak. You want to display confidence while avoiding coming off as a jerk.
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Curated Article from The Good Men Project
Relevant Sources and Studies:
Surviving Widowhood
Real Men Real Style
