Whether it’s a job interview or first date, from the moment two people meet they’re sizing each other up. Business Insider checked out the Quora thread and highlighted some of the most common behaviors people use to judge you.
1. Your handshake
“Strong handshakes usually reflect a strong and confident character, whereas weak handshakes usually indicate a lack of confidence and are almost always a characteristic of people who would look for an easy way to do things,” writes Julian Parge (Quora).Research backs up the idea that your handshake can reveal certain aspects of your personality: One NCBI study found that people with firm handshakes were more likely to be extroverted and emotionally expressive and less likely to be shy and neurotic.
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2. Whether you show up on time
“A proactive person will be there on time, because he is self-motivated, mentally organized, and values time whereas a procrastinator will be running here and there at the last hour,” says Humaira Siddiqui (Quora).According to science in another Business Insider article, those who are chronically late aren’t necessarily inconsiderate people — but they’re probably more laid-back, “Type B” individuals.
3. How you treat restaurant staff
“I will never, EVER date a man who is rude to restaurant staff,” says Sati Marie Frost (Quora).Even top execs from a USA Today article say you can learn a lot about someone based on the way he or she treats waiters, hotel maids, and security guards. Ron Shaich, CEO of Panera Bread, says he once declined to give someone a job partly because she was nice to him but rude to someone cleaning the tables nearby.
4. Where you look when you drink out of a cup
Writes David Junto (Quora): “A person that looks into the cup when drinking tends to be more introspective, self-aware, idealistic, and focused. A person who looks over the rim of the cup when drinking tends to be more influenced by others, more environmentally aware, carefree, extroverted, and trusting. A person who closes their eyes when they drink is in some sort of pain or discomfort and is preoccupied with pleasure and relief.”RELATED STORY: Things To Consider When Drinking With Others
5. Whether you bite your nails
Sushrut Munje (Quora) has strong views on people with bitten nails, saying that it’s a sign “the person eats away at himself.”Meanwhile, research from ScienceDirect suggests that those who bite their nails (or pull their hair, or pick their skin) tend to be perfectionists, unable to fully relax.
6. Your handwriting
Ramesh Nagaraj (Quora) believes that “people who put a lot of pressure on pen and paper to write something are usually stubborn in attitude. They have a lot of confidence.”Meanwhile professional graphologist Kathi McKnight, from an earlier Business Insider article, says large letters indicate that you’re people-oriented, while small letters suggest you’re introverted. Letters that slant to the right can mean you’re friendly and sentimental; those that don’t slant at all might mean you’re pragmatic; letters that slant to the left suggest you’re introspective.
7. How often you check your phone
An anonymous Quora user writes about noticing “where and when [people] pull their phones out (waiting in a short line, talking to their parents, being out with friends, when they’re alone in public).”As for what it might mean if you’re constantly refreshing your email or Facebook feed, another ScienceDirect study found you may be less emotionally stable and trying to boost your mood.
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8. Whether you make eye contact
Munje (Quora) says a limp handshake and a lack of steady eye contact “shows lack of self-control, required drive to follow through, and a weak will.”Alternatively, psychologist Adrian Furnham, Ph.D., writes in Psychology Today that extroverts tend to look more often and for longer at their conversation partners than introverts do. And in general, people who look at their partners more often are more confident and socially dominant.
Curated Articles from Business Insider and Quora
Relevant Sources and Studies:
NCBI
Business Insider – Feb 2015
USA Today
ScienceDirect –March 2015
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ScienceDirect – June 2015
Psychology Today
